Experiences in life, particularly traumatic ones, can leave any of us feeling overwhelmed, stuck and uncertain. They can also leave us questioning if we have what it takes to move forward, to make a difference or to experience something far beyond what it feels like in this moment.
Feelings of overwhelm, stuckness or uncertainty can make any of us feel small, powerless or insignificant. The weightiness of: This is life; my life. Nothing comes easy. Your weren’t there. You don’t know; can feel looming, life-sentencing and finalizing.
Yet, who says? Who says we are small, incapable or incompetent? Who even says we don’t have what it takes?
The list of life’s near perfect scenarios is endless. The list of reasons why or why not we can change anything is equally as endless. What we are feeling in the moment is real. Yet, our ability to change this is equally as real.
For anyone, acknowledging where we are is the beginning of undoing what feels like an unending ending. Ask yourself:
What is working or not working for me now?
What would I like to experience?
Where am I going . . . ?
Looking back is often easier than looking ahead. What ever things feel like now, life around us is still moving on and things are still changing. While facing feelings anger, fear, powerlessness and uncertainty following trauma we can swallow our own voice and disavow the power and decision of our choices. Yet, most days we wake up. We decide to brush or not to brush our teeth. We move on through the routine and experiences of our day. We decide. We choose. We act.
While routine and stagnation has its place in the areas of assembly lines and swamps, the life in and around it, as well as the life we live in, is ever moving. Changing and moving forward might mean something as simple as driving home a different way. Putting our left shoe on before your right shoe. Doing cartwheels through the lawn before we hit the front door. It also might mean grabbing a pen and paper and writing down some things we are good it. The asking ourselves;
What do I like about these things?
How can we do a few of these things differently?
What would it be like if these areas changed?
What are other options?
Putting some new breath and some fresh ideas into our life’s experiences can remind us change is real. These kinds of changes can support us moving forward by connecting us with various types of people and opportunities.
Until next time . . . Story Impact: Changing Stories – Changing Lives!21