Experiences in life, particularly traumatic ones, can leave any of us feeling overwhelmed, stuck and uncertain. They can also leave us questioning if we have what it takes to move forward, to make a difference or to experience something far beyond what it feels like in this moment.
Feeling like we’re stuck in an weighty pile of life-clinging ooze, unable to move in any direction, can make any of us feel small, powerless or insignificant. The weightiness of: This is life; my life. Nothing comes easy. Your weren’t there. You don’t know; can feel looming, life-sentencing and finalizing.
Yet, who says? Who says we are small, incapable or incompetent? Who even says we don’t have what it takes?
The list of life’s near perfect scenarios is endless. The list of reasons why or why not we can change anything is equally as endless. What we are feeling in the moment is real. Yet, the only real reality is our ability change it. Whatever the problem is; in the realm of feelings, we have all been there.
For anyone, acknowledging where we are is the beginning of undoing what feels like an unending ending. Ask yourself, what is working or not working for me now? What would I like to experience? Where am I going . . . ?Looking behind is often easier than looking ahead. Whether it feels this way or not, life is still moving, still changing. When facing the anger, the fear and the uncertainty of trauma we have a tendency to swallow our own voice and disavow the power and decision of our choices. Yet, on the basic scale of life, we wake up. We decide to brush or not to brush our teeth. We move on through the routine of our day’s passing moments. We decide. We choose. We act.
While routine and stagnation has its place in the areas of assembly lines and swamps, the life in and around it, as well as the life we live in, is ever moving. Changing it up and moving forward might mean something as simple as driving home a different way. Putting your left shoe on before your right shoe. Doing cartwheels through the lawn before you hit the front door. It also might mean grabbing a pen and paper and writing down some things we are good it. The asking ourselves;
What do I like about these things?
How can we do a few of these things differently?
As in change them up, freshen them up or expand them in some way.
What would it be like if these areas expanded or grew?
What is the next step?
Putting some new breath and some fresh ideas into our life’s experiences can remind us change is real. Since we are our own change agents, these change ups can move us forward into the reality of new and expanding opportunities. Even some we might not have known existed before.
Until next time . . . Story Impact: Changing Stories – Changing Lives!